I was a weird kid, and my mom protected me. I grew up on a farm in a pretty rural area. When I was between my sophomore and junior year in high school, my dad wanted me to work on the farm, to make me a man, or whatever. I wanted to go to science camp for the summer. Ma, put her foot down, and I got to go to science camp.
I dunno about the god stuff. I am not holding my breath on the message. But, I am lighting her candle.
That's all I got to say on it.
And good is also relative. Mom is a smart egoist. She takes care of her genes.
You might not even notice it (and sadly perhaps most won't), but by mentioning a pet theory, you are, perhaps unwillingly, on the way of denying her her choice and existence.
Seems petty to me, pun intended.
The point is pretty simple: dad has a traditional image of how men are supposed to be, mom sees her son isn't the typical man. Mom protects her son by standing up for him. Mothers protect their children all the time in nature. Why do they do this? Because they take care of their genes. Its their offspring. Do they always do this? No, sometimes they don't. Sometimes they fail, given the circumstances. For example with regards to abuse. Of course there is free will involved in such.
If anything, I am insulting males here, because they regularly act like dumb egoists, selfish, short-sighted, such as in this case.
I applaud smart egoism, as its a long-term win-win. And it isn't always the easy or obvious choice.
Existence has nothing to do with any of this. If anything, I am honoring her influence (past existence, as there's no proof for existence of ghosts etc).