Analogously, I could write a program in C that does message sends and organizes code in a design pattern called "objects" and "classes". Incredibly painful, but workable sometimes. Some people even call it "object oriented C" and go on to create a library to handle it like [1]. Is object orientation not a paradigm because I've implemented a core piece as a library?
No, because that misses the intangible part of what makes a paradigm a paradigm: I structured my code this way, for a reason. In OOP, that reason is the compartmentalization of concerns. The underlying OOP mechanism gives me a way to reason about composition and substitution of components to minimize how much I have to reason about when writing code. Similarly, in differentiable programming, the differentiability of all things gives me a way to reason about the smooth substitution of things because it more easily lets me reason about how the machine writes code.