You might be able to "cure" the dog of withdrawal by changing its chemistry such that it no longer avoids the abusive child. But if the child is still out there that isn't necessarily a favor to the dog.
You might be able to "cure" the dog of withdrawal by changing its chemistry such that it no longer avoids the abusive child. But if the child is still out there that isn't necessarily a favor to the dog.
Once you hit adulthood, most able-bodied, able-minded people are expected to be "contributing members of society". But that definition is pretty nebulous - it doesn't have to be society's definition - whatever you set to be your own expectations for success. If you repeatedly fail to meet those standards you set for yourself, it can cause you to turn this feeling of pain and frustration from failure inwards, towards yourself.
At some point, you simply withdraw entirely, because you are afraid of feeling the pain of failure that you trained yourself to associate with attempting to meet your goals.
This is often compounded by well-meaning people trying to shame you into doing something: "You can't live like this! You HAVE to get a job!" - sort of "support" from family members or friends.
Or, they might throw blame: "Why don't you work harder? Stop wasting your time doing nothing!"
I think this may be a significant factor on why this symptom appears much more common in Japan, a mono-cultural society with very high expectations to conform. Also perhaps why it's growing overall, as the general prospects for younger people seem to be worse than the previous generation across most developed countries.
However, I don't think you can treat the chemistry to "fix" social withdrawal. I believe it's linked to other mental health issues, like depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Treating those issues, primarily through therapy, is required first, before working on fixing social withdrawal, which at that point should be straightforward.
Oh, I'll bet you a fat R&D contract and a promised economic boom that you can. And you probably "can", for a given value of ""fix"". It'll just be another neoliberal pressure-washer pointed at the weathered rock face of our collective humanity. See, it's still just fine!
If you've ever lived in or near a US city, the "sink" outcome is actually quite common.
> Better to learn how to live in society sooner than later.
Your approach converts a family struggle into a community problem.
I don't see why society would encourage families that can support hikikomori for some number of years to offload all of them onto society immediately, even if some would successfully "swim".
Some of those shut-ins would do well enlisting in the military, if they can pass the medical screening.
But if you force them to "sink or swim" now, you're going to have a raging generation of 20-somethings with nothing to lose and contempt for the society and families that abandoned them. Also, did you notice the planet is literally burning?
For personal reasons, I'd like to keep society going a little longer. If we could not start a Joker breeding program, that'd be great.
The vast majority of people eventually figure out a way to "swim" when they're left with no alternative.
Maybe you should start fixing the problem where most people don't work for their own sake or their fellow people but actively compete over fewer and fewer necessary working hours as productivity keeps going up without the economy growing and everyone insists they need a full time 40 hour job.
Pretty much all unemployment can be explained by the laziness of the financial capitalists rather than the people doing the work. Investors being job creators is ridiculous because saving money destroys jobs so the net job creation is zero and it is actually the opposite, saving forces investment and hence nobody gets moral superiority by creating jobs because if they don't they are massive assholes.
In European countries like Spain the elderly voted in heavy labor restrictions against firing seniors and introduced huge severance packages which means companies fire young people first instead of old people who have more than enough money and would have even more after severance pay. What this means is that the old are hoarding all the income opportunities while simultaneously saving for retirement which decreases aggregate demand and effectively makes it pointless for young people to work for their own money and very profitable for them to just stay at home while their parents pretend they are the productive breadwinners. The sink or swim/tough love idea would require parents giving up their job for the sake of the young and that is unlikely to happen. No, the economy isn't growing faster than productivity, you can't grow your way to a job for everyone.
Who exactly caused the hikikomori problem? Hermits and recluses have existed for as long as society has.
> Maybe you should start fixing the problem where most people don't work for their own sake or their fellow people but actively compete over fewer and fewer necessary working hours as productivity keeps going up without the economy growing and everyone insists they need a full time 40 hour job.
> Pretty much all unemployment can be explained by the laziness of the financial capitalists rather than the people doing the work. Investors being job creators is ridiculous because saving money destroys jobs so the net job creation is zero and it is actually the opposite, saving forces investment and hence nobody gets moral superiority by creating jobs because if they don't they are massive assholes. In European countries like Spain the elderly voted in heavy labor restrictions against firing seniors and introduced huge severance packages which means companies fire young people first instead of old people who have more than enough money and would have even more after severance pay.
That's unions for you. It's not a problem of capitalism but rather the eventuality of state-backed labor. Labor is dominated by those most experienced in labor politics. If the state is what gives them power in the first place, why wouldn't they use it to their advantage? Considering that the elderly would have between 40-50 years of experience in expanding their influence, they would already have every single way to extract as much money as possible long before posterity would reach conception. Pension funds and Social Security, are among the top tools in robbing to young Peter to pay elder Paul.
> What this means is that the old are hoarding all the income opportunities while simultaneously saving for retirement which decreases aggregate demand and effectively makes it pointless for young people to work for their own money and very profitable for them to just stay at home while their parents pretend they are the productive breadwinners. The sink or swim/tough love idea would require parents giving up their job for the sake of the young and that is unlikely to happen. No, the economy isn't growing faster than productivity, you can't grow your way to a job for everyone.
There's no way to "hoard" an opportunity. Opportunities come and go based on circumstances and conditions all of which are bound by time, place, necessity, and ability. If they aren't used, they disappear. Opportunities may be created, but they don't work like participation trophies. Just as you mention that there's no way to grow a job for everyone, there's no way to create an opportunity for everyone.
The sink or swim is eventually going to happen. Neetbux will only delay the inevitable. As far as free housing is concerned, in Japan there are plenty of houses at a very low cost in depopulated countryside towns. They can always move out and get a place of their own.
Above you suggested that they join the military. Where do you think the money for military food, housing, equipment, training, and salaries comes from?
that's probably exactly the worst thing you could do to them.
As long as there's a thread of trust between the caregiver and the shut-in, you have access/influence with them, and they can be rehabilitated, under the right circumstances.
A safer option might be to completely change their environment, but stay supportive, in order to break any entrained behavior connected to being a shut-in. Might be difficult to achieve this in Japan, though.
If you delete that remaining thread of trust by applying "tough love," they will be forced to face the trauma that they could not before, but without any support.
Perhaps some small fraction might "survive" that ordeal, but it's not exactly setting them up for long-term success.
I do think many parents have no idea how to handle a dependent in that situation. The worst case scenario is when parents have also "given up" on their child ever recovering/improving - those situations need intervention from an outside party.
EDIT: I'd define "tough love" as actions done with the intent of "helping" someone, but with wanton disregard to that someone's health.
This modern concern about "trauma" over minor little discomforts is just pathetic. Some people just need to harden up and quit whining.
Ultimately, I don't think that any set of short-term actions alone can truly solve this. Macro-scale societal changes need to be in place or at minimum in progress before micro-scale efforts with individuals to make sense. Cure the disease, not the symptom.
I think this is the major problem of a lot of modern/contemporary mental healthcare. The "tough love"/rewiring/reframing + medication approach probably does often get the desired result from a 10,000ft view (the patient is "functional" within society and isn't actively trying to harm themselves or others), but it frequently gets administered in the most disgustingly dogmatic, abusive way, which leads to the person in question becoming either emotionally dead, or an anxious, neurotic mess. But hey, at least they show up on time for their cashier job!
There are too many people receiving therapy licenses (only referring to the US here as I'm not familiar with the rest of the world) who have zero real understanding of what they're doing to/with their patients beyond reciting the scripts they learned in a three-day CBT or DBT seminar.
And on one hand, it's hard to blame the practitioners, because what are they supposed to tell someone who hasn't been able to make rent for three months despite working full-time and is about to get evicted again? Or who is neurodivergent in some way that literally prevents them from engaging in menial labor without wanting to kill themselves? What can they concretely do to help these people other than teach them to convince themselves that everything is fine and they are the problem?
The whole system is fucked up and there's not really a clear, simple, realistic solution.
e.g. when the rug/promise was pulled out and the only prospects were low paid temp work often with no or little social safety nets, whole swathes of people realized that the social contract they signed up for was gone and it drove a lot of people into seclusion.
The parents may be trapped in it but that's partially because they earn a lot of money doing it, so changing jobs is hard.
Nowadays it's likely those jobs aren't even as lucrative as they used to be, on top of being an unappealing lifestyle.
Which is basically true the world over it seems. No one is making as much as people used to
The average middle aged Japanese family salaryman seems to be firm and stable middle class in return for a lifetime of slogging through long, bureaucratic, workdays where he seldom sees his family (and his family, him).
I specifically use the term "him" because this seems to be overwhelmingly a male phenomenon. On the other side of the equation, the wife and kids rarely see the husband/father.
So where is the incentive for your average salaryman to go and work hard, to make those people way way richer?
Barring exceptional circumstances, you probably will never become wealthy, but you will probably never dip below middle class either.
Your wife and kids (again, the salaryman concept is probably overwhelmingly a male phenomenon) will enjoy a stable, solid, financial foundation, in return for rarely seeing their husband/father - relatively speaking, at least from the perspective of what the West sees as acceptable work-life balance.
Tech is mostly immune to that though
The reason I replied, however, was the use of the phrase "hermits were aristocratic?", because it brought to mind the fad of the ornamental hermit, kept as a positional good on estates of the rich. [0]
People who wrote the (history) books didn't bother and therefore historians and archeologist have not a lot to go by. Much of their everyday lives has to be pieced together from scarce evidence.
Sociology is only arriving on the scene much later.
Do we cure reasonable?