The word 'racist' didn't appear until your post. It's a shame we can't discuss obvious language bias without you becoming defensive about imagined sleights.
Just wait a few years, I feel like this nearly-satanic-panic level of sensitivity will pass. Maybe a decade or so.
That said there's a cheat I've heard of for the terminally lonely extravert: Clubs and Volunteering. I haven't tried either myself as I'm an introvert and near hermit happy with my three super-extravert friends that only need to hear from me a couple times a year.
Then there's the ultimate cheat, get married and have kids. Totally worth it, IMHO.