You cannot reverse that trend by simply choosing not to participate in getting paid more. By all means, don’t be motivated in your career solely for higher compensation. But also don’t feel bad for getting paid more. The money you leave on the table will just get taken by some other overpaid engineer, manager, or VC shaving pennies off of their costs anyway. Take the money for the sake of your loved ones, donate it, pay higher taxes if you want to. There’s nothing inherently unethical about it.
I would hazard to say, the more problematic situation about the ease of job-hopping in this industry is that it deprioritizes grit and perseverance. There’s always a better-managed organization, more feasible business model, higher quality engineering team for one to jump to when the going gets rough. That’s just as important as the promise of higher pay and title- why bother toiling if there’s always a slightly less dysfunctional org on the other side? So you end up with very transitory, evanescent companies because personnel keep disappearing every couple years.
But, I’m not sure if that’s really on the individual contributor to solve either. The question of retention and of building employee loyalty is really the responsibility of management. And with all of the dumb money that’s flowed into the tech industry thanks to interest rates and software being the primer economic lever of the times, companies have less incentive to make necessary changes. They themselves benefit from a very fluid workforce. If you job hop away your boss will just swap in someone who job hopped from another company. So maybe that’s just how it’s going to be until the next recession hits.
These are the (obscenely wealthy) people that you are allowing to arbitrage your salary.
I doubt other underpaid workers are celebrating the fact that your salary differential is paying for champagne on a super yacht instead of going to your kid’s college fund or more family vacations.
And I’m sure that the people/groups mentioned are pleased that they are able to pocket the difference en masse because of this economically irrational ethic.