I’m in a very similar situation to the original poster. My ADHD is strong I refuse to take meds for it after a bad experience. I have a doctorate level degree but early on in my career got sidetracked and now make more money in database management than I ever would have if I used my degree. However, my job is boring and meaningless. It is also easy enough that it is fine to be a little buzzed from weed the previous day. I quit on and off and try to take breaks but have never been free from it for over a year. My last return to use helped me confirm that weed really isn’t that exciting or useful for me.
My most recent successful quitting cold turkey was the result of a mis-dose of RSO oil. I took way too much and blasted off to the cosmos. I realized the only way out of the “trip” was to work on what I needed to change about my habits. During my session I made a list of changes I wanted to make in life and decided (or rather was told by the universe) that I needed a break from weed and everything else could wait. I woke up the next day and threw everything out related to mj use with the exception of a 10 mg edible in case I had any sort of withdrawal. After a couple days with no withdrawal symptoms I threw that out.
A month in and I can say there is SO much to look forward to after cutting out weed. The dreams alone are worth it. I had a single dream last week that seemed like a gift from the universe. It’s too subjective to share but it altered the way I react to and perceive any anxiety-inducing stimuli.
I still have so much to work on but it all seems manageable after this one win.
TLDR; Try to focus on one single thing you want/need to change the most and don’t let anything else overwhelm you. You need a win right now. The rest can wait.