I mean, I think my real complaint is that

1. humans are fuckin' terrible at thinking through second order effects, and 2. often they are simply unknowable a-priori

so to the extent that I am doing the thing I'm unhappy with, it's less hypocrisy and more accidentally proving my broad point.

At any rate, about kids: the same reason kids aren't especially susceptible to COVID seem to also substantially reduce their transmission of it. It might be the case that it's still worthwhile for the broader community, idk - I'm certainly default a little skeptical of anyone saying "think of the children!"