I think so much of burnout and resentment/cynicism in general but especially in romantic situations is paying more attention to what the other person is feeling than how we are feeling. And that in many micro conflicts, we don't say how we're feeling, such as saying yes to someone when we want to say no, agreeing when we want to disagree, and more.

If you give more specifics on the situation, I'd love to give more suggestions on what has worked for me. If not, I understand and I'll stick with being more honest with myself and others about how I'm feeling has helped me a lot.

I did hit a point when dating where I asked my gf to leave me alone for a bit. She didn't take it well, but sometimes you have to do it. Often one person needs it more than the other.

In marriage, both of you need a little me time. Every now and then, my wife goes to the movies alone, while I play with the kids at the playground. This is especially likely when someone takes the share of work, especially homemakers. If you're doing the same work 7 days/week, you're bound to get burnt out.

- Breaking out of the regular environment with the whole family (e.g., family vacations or “staycations”)

- Breaking out of the regular environment as a couple (date nights, etc.)

- Breaking out of the regular environment individually.

“Engagement with the external social environment/self-care balance” is important, even in contexts where the more catchy name “work/life balance” isn't the right description.

While unwinding, destressing, etc. is a big part of the value of breaks, part of it is getting so e time/distance to reflect/assess and diagnose things that aren't working, individually and collectively, and collaborate on fixes.

From the article:

  The only thing that works is to remove yourself from the environment that is causing burnout, and then taking the time off to recover. The good news is that recovery is guaranteed.