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This is just a self-limiting belief. Statements like " all the stuff girls expect" should be a red flag to you. Frankly, I hear this uttered by guys who are only making statements about how they think dating is like since they aren't actually doing much dating.

Hint: Try branching out beyond dinner dates, anyways. There are cheap/free dates that are far more interesting, and you filter for cool women that want to do those things.

"Wanna go to an expensive dinner?" isn't what women want in 2022 either. It's boring.

> all the stuff girls expect

The fact that someone is expecting someone else to be paying for dates in 2022 is just crazy.

I feel many things people call "dates" are very ... transactional these days. :(

People are scoffing at this but cutting out most of the dating pool because they don’t want to do cheap activities on dates is not easy advice to follow.

Appreciating more substance is something people mature into. Over the course of years, not the length of an romcom. Anyone already mature enough in their 20s is likely take.