I don't know what issues you apparently have with your kids, but stop projecting that on the rest of us who have managed a healthy balance.
I don’t know what you think being the parent means that you react so strongly to the idea?
Let me flip that around on you - what do YOU think being a parent means which is mutually exclusive with being a friend?
Would you ever deny a friend something they wanted to do that you knew wasn’t good for them?
You aren’t responsible for your friends.
> Would you ever deny a friend something they wanted to do that you knew wasn’t good for them?
Ahm...yes? A friend isn't characterized by how much they agree with you. It's perfectly valid to say no.
I would definitely try to stop my friend from doing something I see as unhealthy or dangerous.
As others have said - absolutely, yes. Responsibility has very little to do with it, it's all about wanting the best outcome for them. And that should apply to both your children and your friends.
but it’s not absolutely one or the other. you can be both a friend most of the time but a parent all of the time
I guess that depends on how you treat your friends.