In the UK here. I've found that any old bag of dried, ground, Sichuan pepper, or dried Sichuan pepper corns that you grind yourself, will cause the effect. No need for 'proper preparation' or freshness, just sprinkle Sichuan pepper on the food.
The pepper is greenish in colour. Just add liberally and you'll get the numbness.
The red ones are the ones that are normally used in Sichuan cooking and they are plenty numbing.
The green ones (from a slightly different species) are more common in Japanese cooking
You don't really want to substitute them for each other.
From my observations living in China, shopping at wet markets and eating in restaurants, green Sichuan pepper is quite commonly used. Both red and green variants are sold in dry format, but the red ones are the ones you will find more often pre-packaged in supermarkets. They do both work to create a numbing sensation, but in my opinion, the green ones get you more bang for your buck.
Sansho is Zanthoxylum piperitum and green sichuan pepper apparently may be Zanthoxylum armatum, so red sichuan pepper, green sichuan pepper, and sansho may all be different species.
There is also Zanthoxylum schinifolium which is apparently used in Korean "Sancho".
In Sichuan they put this stuff in everything. Start off with a breakfast of Numbing & Spicy beef noodle soup. Mid morning a snack of cold rice noodles with lajao & haujao paste on it. ChuanChuan for lunch, Hot Pot for dinner and finish it off with a spicy BBQ in the evening.
Incredible how good just rice, a dash of light soy sauce, an egg, and a good helping of chili oil can taste.
You can probably just add a little sesame oil to it instead. Corn oil and grape seed are also fine carriers.
As for recipes, Kenji Alt-Lopez has a wok cookbook with some for chili oils, but Fuchsia Dunlop is really the definitive author on Sichuan cooking.