The first dating app made for developers
meetwith.dev
meetwith.dev
https://whitelabelfox.com/tinder-clone-app/
It has no info about how it works, who runs it, etc. Just a random form. Maybe a phishing attempt? I wouldn't trust it...
Edit: I think there are a lot of sites in this vein, whitelabeled dating sites/apps that try to rip off the big ones by forming their own tiny niches. It doesn't necessarily mean it's fake, but even if it's real, the network is probably going to be so small as to be worthless.
Something about the "skinny vector people" just seemed really boilerplate to me, along with telltale signs of "someone used a bootstrap-like framework" like the cards not having the same vertical height. Nothing on the page made it seem like it was actually designed for a dev-centric service, it all just looked like it was ripped off a generic dating template. So I just wanted to confirm that hunch.
In my life dating, people like me just made for a rather boring relationship. My wife and I couldn't be more different of people, with wildly different interests, but it makes for always interesting conversation and learning from one another.
This isn’t to say that I think developers dating developers is a bad idea, choosing a partner is the most personal possible choice and I’m glad to see an interesting new angle on it.
I'm biased perhaps, but I think science is fundamentally more interesting and rewarding than doing engineering for a FAANG. (disclaimer: I work for a FAANG but on more and more pure math stuff.)
I appreciate the diversity and our different perspectives a lot, along with our ability to talk through differences together in a "we both win or we both lose" kinda dialogue, no shouting or anything, just a lot of back-and-forth sharing.
I dumped an ex-gf because she was going to be a doctor and that's not the life I wanted for my family.
There are plenty of developers who are quite different from yourself.
What being a developer seems to indicate is: making decent financial/career choices, willingness to automate away your job
Lol, out of curiosity, what does this mean?
Source: Dated a nurse. :-D
edit: Also they might be changing/rotating shifts, so for some time my date and me could only meet in the mornings on weekends.
Anyone who works with people whose health condition can change any moment.
Night shifts, holiday restrictions, inflexible hours.
Anyone who is married to a health professional will plan around their schedule.
I have to actively push myself to avoid talking about work, I enjoy it.
Seriously, though, what about developers who are looking for someone that brings other skills and interests to the relationship? Or people who like the idea of dating a developer, but aren't one themselves?
Then there's the issue that people might want to keep their developer/professional identity separate from their romantic identity, for reasons of privacy, security, and staying on the right side of HR.
If it's not too late to pivot, I would recommend using Wikipedia accounts as the user pool, since the site allows users to create their own Talk pages, on which they can add their interests and what they are looking for.
I get what a few people said about not wanting to be talking about work all the time, but for me, it's more about shared passions. I'd much rather be dating somebody who understands why some hack I did is particularly clever, and maybe even has a better one. I have trouble finding any real chemistry with people who aren't part of my world.
Regular dating app trying to appeal to women are already 90% men. A dating app appealing to a male-dominated demographic is going to have virtually no women at all.
couldn't have chosen a worse demographic in my opinion, it's like a virtual engineering school dating scene(i.e probably not much fun ...)
If you're looking to develop another dating app perhaps look for ways to address the problems with existing ones. Here are a few examples: Horrible male to female ratio. Men swipe at everything, women are incredibly picky. F*boys. Female safety fears. Catfishing. Scams. Superficial decision making in matching. Ghosting. Lack of reputation building and tracking in the app. Crappy profiles. Old outdated pictures. Lack of actually wanting to meet.
My humble suggestion: Pivot and come up with something unique that makes online dating a notch better than it currently is.
What you’re after is more than likely much closer to a traditionally arranged communion (dating, marriage, whatever). The filters, pre selection, etc, would be in place by design. As we all know, that isn’t going to fly at all. You’d get your head cut off (in Minecraft) if you suggested this to women today as a viable means of pairing with men.
What you’re looking at now is what happens when we take the facade of civilization, society, some concept of fairness etc in the “dating marketplace” and the filters away, and we show humans as they are. Their wants, needs, desires, desperations. And if things look bleak to you, I assure you, it’s not because of technology and it’s not something technology will fix.
Like most Lisp programmers, I'm only compatible with women who also program Lisp (unless they only know Emacs Lisp, of course).
- be attractive
- be good at talking
- be respectful to women
- have a manic episode
- tell her how you feel, to her face
- tell her she’s attractive
Then once your mood stabilizes, if she didn’t report you to HR, you can probably escalate to cocktails.
actual feedback: use graphics that aren’t heavily implying that this is only a platform for strictly male persons and female persons to meet.
it’s 2022. you could also just declare that as your intent but you won’t survive long imo.
but yeah, I agree. the gender ratio is bound to be wack.
The community here needs to see more than a landing page to have a substantive discussion.
I guess you really did mean “find people like you” as in you the developer?
It's hard for me to even imagine "coder" as a dating persona; why would anyone care? Income bracket, maybe, but there are already matchmaking services/filters for that. Passion for technology? Maybe, but there are already communities for that where you can meet others without the overbearing expectation of romance.
In general I think dating and social loneliness is already heavily lopsided against hetero men; women don't need a "find me a dev who wants to date me" app, their existence is constantly bombarded with that. Why would they ever sign up for something like this?
I don't know how this would play out for queer devs, so I won't speculate there.
And if you're a hetero woman dev, chances are your network is already filled with hordes of eligible bachelors a degree or two away -- if you even want to date in that pool.
I think that's the biggest "if" here... "devs" are not really a sexy stereotype in the way that date-an-athlete or date-a-doctor or date-a-rapper would be, I don't think. If anything, it probably hurts your chances. I certainly wouldn't go around throwing, "Hey babe, ever been with a dev?" Lol.
Straight up “hey hottie, wanna bang?” (75% of the time asked more crudely).
Asking for nudes before a first date.
It made the dudes who merely ignored her profile seem like Prince Charming.
I can’t tell if “maybe it works 2% of the time, so I’ll just fire off 100 ultra-low effort contacts and hope for a nibble” or if these guys are hopelessly clueless.
Then, though it might seem like a luxury, but if she left her profile up for a week, she’d have high double digits of new contacts on any of the larger sites every week. Finding the 2 or 3 good matches in the deluge of contacts, propositions, and dick pics was overwhelming.
I can see women wanting to “show me only a tiny sliver of the overall population, since the full firehose is far too much anyway”. Whether SWE is the right slice I can’t say, but it seems like there’s plenty of desire on both sides and plenty of disposable income from both sides.