Some things that stop her in her tracks:
- any control that requires a touch to activate and then disappears on a timeout - like all the controls for video apps. She takes 3-4 seconds to realize something changed and then 5 more more to start orienting herself. The controls usually disappear within 5-7 seconds.
- any surprising prompt from the os throws her into helplessness and panic - updates that need a restart, etc.
- anything that switches the focus away from the current activity. Why would android interrupt a live call with some BS, ever, is beyond me.
- communications apps show a screen with names but that's often the log of past calls or a chat. She wants to just click a name and make a call. On zoom, going to her contacts required 2 or 3 clicks which were not intuitive for her, and so she can never initiate a call.
- zoom audio needed active confirmation to connect to audio. On a tablet, where no options are available but the over-wifi audio.
- her having to slide a control in order to answer a call.
- anything that requires a reaction within 10-15 seconds
- anything that uses (even widely accepted) technical jargon.
She is not deaf or disabled nor visually impaired and yet the complexity of using this device presents serious obstacles.
These are just from the top of my head. She doesn't browse or use a computer and I'm happy for her. TV and newspaper are enough and I just don't feel good about having her navigate a world of malicious predatory dark patterns.
This makes me realize how used I am to not trusting anything online and presuming the worst by default - in order to protect myself.
I remember how about a decade ago my dad wanted me to help him with an important email. Someone had emailed him to tell him he won a lottery in Britain. It took me a lot of effort to explain to him that it is a scam, that they've emailed everyone, automatically, (to him a simple email takes half an hour so he can't imagine so much effort going into a scam) and that despite them knowing his name... they don't really know him.
The asymmetrical nature of malicious activity online is so... dishartening.