So I gave away the goods thinking everything was good to go.
When it bounced, I rang up and complained and they did nothing, just shrugged it off.
Story ends like this though: caught the thief with the Stripe IP audit log, police raided his house, found hundreds of other items but I never managed to recoup the loss, because mine was gone. I still think that it was Stripes fault because the UX on the email (even the green banner) made it seem like everything was good to go.
(I routinely tell everyone to avoid Stripe now and go with PayPal, someone from Stripe feel free to reach out and change my mind ..)