Thought experiment: if you want to keep control over your data, try something radical: don't hand it to Meta/FB/IG at all
(Full disclosure, I'm neither on FB nor IG)
"Just Facebook" has made the web shittier; entire realms of essentially public, often great content hidden behind a login wall.
“You” only exist in numerous empty statements about “privacy”, “respect”, etc. If you are feeling artsy, you can make that hyped NFT thing out of those, and see whether those kilobytes of text really worth anything.
There is a relationship involved because ultimately as a FB user, if I don't like what they are doing, I can ask them to remove my data permanently and they must legally do that. If someone has "scraped" that data (if it is considered PID), without my permission or a legal basis to do so, they are in breach of the GDPR and can have enforcement taken against them.
I think some of these "aggregation" businesses will fall foul of this in Europe but I don't know what will realistically happen if that business does not exist in Europe and breaches the GDPR.
Facebook breaches the GDPR all the time and manages to stay in business. GDPR enforcement is barely existent, and when it does happen, it's insufficient.
I remember that about a decade ago some IT guys have paid for the common Facebook advertiser access, then targeted the ad campaigns using filters in such a way that their intersection only resulted in a single user, or just a couple of them, and were able to match those “anonymized” accounts to real ones. You didn't have to be a genius to do that. Facebook certainly knew it could be used like that. Everyone who made money on that simply agreed to use “anonymization” as a smokescreen. Later, with all the scandals, those routine operations were presented as something exceptional done by a small number of bad actors.