It should be obvious that the mean is the correct representative value for weighing nails. My point is that there are cases that call for the mean and cases that call for the median, and the distinction can be explained by considering the signedness (without having to consider squared distances).
Maybe the following variation on the nail example would help: Suppose the manufacturer of the nails must publish a reference value for the weight of a nail, and will be fined for every nail that is not exactly the correct weight. The fine is proportional to the absolute error. Question: Should the manufacturer publish the mean or the median in order to minimise fines? Answer: The median.
Why is the mean the correct representative value for counting nails, but not for minimising fines? I'm arguing that it's because when the nails are weighed together the errors are signed, but when the fines are calculated the errors are unsigned (in the same way that the distances to the elevators are unsigned).