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For the birth, it goes slowly. Waters break but it's still quite a while before the kid comes. Don't panic and don't spend all your energy at once.

Don't hesitate to get a c-section. If you need it, ask for it. Both my kids would have died if it wasn't for that. It's completely routine for the doctor, I even heard them talking about their shopping while pulling out my daughter.

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I regret not asking for a c-section explicitly. Coming from a traditional south-indian background I hesitated electing a c-section beforehand, trusting the doctor will take the best decisions based on the situation. I was wrong. The doctor pushed it too far and my baby had to be NICU-ed for a couple of days and even worse, I still have PTSD witnessing the trauma my spouse had to go through.

I should have simply listened to my intuition and asked for c-section upfront.

Perhaps your doc made the wrong call but people without medical knowledge shouldn't be making medical decisions either.

What did your spouse want? Was she out of commission? If you're not the one giving birth and not the responsible doctor it's not your call to make, is it?

Thank you. Seriously I could not believe that was written by a man.

She was in the same state of mind. We both left it to the doctor to decide. And that turned out to be a poor choice.

Not every culture is the same as yours, and yours is not correct in all occasions.

The rate of birth depends on the mother/baby, though its true that the first birth is often much slower. I'm a mother that just had my second, and labor escalated so quickly this time that my partner didn't believe how close I was and I nearly didn't get to the hospital on time. So, trust your partner, and if she thinks she needs to go to the hospital, just take her (or call them up and ask for advice, I had the advice line on speed dial).

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