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Hey! I'm a guy, single, 37, also living in Austin, and I have no idea what I'm doing with my own love life. I read a lot of my own feelings in what you write. If you'd like to meet someone with no weirdo agenda (or at least like, not worryingly weird), get in touch?

No pressure to respond, and I don't want to be an internet creep. I just thought you might like to know you're not the only one like us out there. You posting this here was so brave and I feel less alone just having read it.

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super let's meet! manisha[at]manisharose[dot]com :) Thank you for reaching out.

Not sure it’s a good idea to post your personal coordinates on a public forum on a dating thread even in this “obfuscated” format. You’ll probably get some unwelcome attention or at least get spambot subscribed to “newsletters” and “offers” by random web scrapers.

At the very least op should ask whoever sends her an email to confirm that they are user “mtklein” by updating his hn profile about section with a random, unique, string she generates or something. Just to be sure they are the right person. Also rip her inbox.

gosh! programmers dating!

Better safe than sorry. Likewise user “mtklein” should exercise caution. She may be after his carma. You’d be surprised to what lengths people go just to be able to downvote or flag others on here. o_O

/jk

Be careful mtklein- I may steal your karma ! I really do need some good karma :) I promise I’ll ask politely, I won’t steal though.

+1 Yes, safety first.

We can be safe, but the world isn't safe.

The downvotes are at best amusing and at worst concerning, usually I don't comment on it but in this case I'm genuinely curious- who is against staying safe? Like, what!?? Please leave a comment instead, unless you're just bitterly trolling.

I would of course be happy to do something like this. Safety first, absolutely.

Also, um, can we maybe be cool here folks? This is just two people meeting for the first time in a funny way. I understand what you might read into this, but please, let's not?

Incidentally I think it'd be kind of fun to be catfished for all my HN carma (karma?). Is that the number next to my login? I still have no idea what that means or does after all these years.

Yeah, I agree, bad idea. HN doesn't let users edit comments beyond a certain date, but perhaps the mods can scrub it for her if she decides to.

Good luck you two :)

it's probably to late now, but it's better to put your email address into your profile where you can remove it later.

maybe you can ask @dang to remove the email from this comment.

Having read a lot of this thread before seeing this, I keep wondering to myself, what must she look like? I think physical attraction is the first and most important thing to match on. After all, you really do need to fancy the other person. To go on over 100 dates without success had me thinking you must be unattractive. So, I went to your domain and saw you are obviously attractive (to me anyway - married, not looking for a date). It isn’t your looks is all I’m saying, so I guess this is a positive. All I can add is my own experience. I found love when I was least expecting it. In a bar of all places, 2 weeks after arriving in a new country for a working holiday. Happily married for over 15 years with 2 kids. I was absolutely not looking for a relationship (how often have you heard the cliche that you find love when you least expect it?). I suggest focusing on who makes you feel good and puts a fire in your belly. Try to forget about kids and all the rest. That (hopefully) comes later, after you have found someone you like, as the relationship develops. Pressure and desperation won’t do you any favours. As difficult as it probably is with your current mindset, stop trying too hard. Live your life. What will be will be etc. Once you stop looking and trying too hard, you will probably discover something new. Certainly what you have been trying isn’t working! Good luck in life.

I love this advice and it definitely makes me feel good:) I agree that focusing on that loving partnership first is important. It's important to me, otherwise I would pursue other ways to have kids. Thanks very much for taking the time to share and to share kind words about me. It does make a difference.

So cute! Wishing you the best.

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