These are three options, there are more:

Option 1: Expand the pool - learn to be turned on by and interested in a wider variety of people.

Option 2: Convert an existing relationship, perhaps a platonic friendship, to a mutually beneficial partnership.

Option 3: Genuinely give up, allow yourself to relieve yourself of any expectations, and try to become mindful of the internal pressures you are applying on yourself as a reaction to your own childhood etc.