Sensitivity really is the problem. Sometimes people mock me for drinking instant coffee. Instead of letting that hurt my feelings, I laugh in their face and ask if they're volunteering to make coffee for me.
I'd take instant coffee from good beans over perfectly brewed coffee (IMO this is espresso or pour-over in a pinch) with shitty beans.
As a self-confessed coffee snob (who owns everything from a Aeropress to a French Press to you-name-it and gets freshly roasted beans from across the world which I hand grind at home), it's always a matter of contention for me when my sister visits home and PREFERS both the speed and the taste of nescafe instant coffee over my finely tweaked-over-the-years methods for making great coffee.
She's not in the computer science field, so the instant vs fresh coffee debate is our version of the Emacs vs Vim debate ;-)
The trouble with that mode of argument is that for nearly every conceivable action you take in your life, there is going to be a "higher quality" version of that action that only takes slightly longer. There's probably always a way to get better results by spending slightly more time tying your shoes, brushing your teeth, shaving, washing your face, catching up on news, preparing your coffee, having your morning walk/bike ride/gym session, etc.
And yet you only have so much time in the day, so it's important to know which of those things you enjoy well enough to take the time to do the higher quality version of them. Maybe you love coffee and gladly spend a few extra minutes getting a cup that you enjoy, but maybe you couldn't care less about your skin care routine. But maybe I enjoy skin care and will gladly spend time shaving and washing my face, but maybe I couldn't care less about the quality of my morning coffee and just want the instant crystals.
When I was younger I would sometimes feel deeply hurt when someone expressed disapproval of something I did or something about me, and as I've grown older realized that sometimes people don't like the way I do things, or don't like me, and that's okay.
I don't have a really specific point to make here, but it may be worth considering that snobby humor is sometimes really hurtful to some people, and telling someone "you're too sensitive" is probably not helping them grow into a more secure person with a healthier level of sensitivity.
I fundamentally don't agree with that. That's not the way I want other people to treat me, so that's not the way I treat other people. If I have a problem with getting bullying and pressuring into doing something I don't like, I would rather have somebody set my priorities straight by telling me to ignore the haters. Offering me a shoulder to cry on won't help me. That's a superficial sort of kindness, like not washing a wound because it would be painful, choosing instead to let the wound fester.
You don't need to just let them cry and not address anything, but also telling someone to "just ignore the haters" is probably just as effective as telling a depressed person "have you tried not being depressed?"
Are you sure that you want to be told "You're too sensitive" when you're having a vulnerable moment, and someone happened to criticize you in an area where you have some insecurity? Though it may be true, don't you already know it, and really don't want to hear it at that moment?
Better to not spend your life planning on how to improve your status and instead focus on finding things rewarding.
The looks of utter disgust and horror I’ve received always put a smile on my face.
A lot of fancy coffees taste terrible. But we aren't allowed to say that because how can it be you spent 10x more to get a far worse product?