The amount of control over the situation in hand-to-hand combat is extremely limited, especially for the poorly trained fighters making up much of pre-modern armies.
http;//www.acoup.blog had some excellent posts about this recently.
For a relatable example, compare driving a car to riding in a rollercoaster. Driving is more dangerous and you're not really in control of other drivers who can hit you, but you feel in control because you hold the wheel.