I thought I was the only one. For me it was GoLand, not to mention the constant feeling that im being watched. VSCode without telemetry is what I moved to.
JetBrains IDEs ask you whether you want to submit usage data on the first startup, and honor your choice. You are not watched if you don't give an explicit, opt-in permission for that.
Lol. VSCode with telemetry and autoupdates turned off still keeps pinging MS servers. There is your privacy.
I use the VSCodium variant, which is why I specified no telemetry.