People who are isolated from others do worse on cognitive tests: new research
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Again, I believe the basic conclusion that isolation is bad for your brain is likely true, but I'm not sure I agree that this is strong evidence for it. People who sit in wheelchairs a lot have low leg strength; the wheelchairs aren't usually causing it.
But I absolutely can notice that I get kind of feral after long isolation periods, even in terms of language abilities -- but I only notice it when being with other people again, not while alone; while alone I feel much clearer as you said.
My point being what you feel about your cognitive processes/world might not be objective reality.
And I thought I was an introvert who loved to spend time alone. Which I do, but turns out I also need social interactions to survive, and since I always had it at my disposal, I only noticed the deficiency once I lost it and couldn't get it back.
While I do take part in a couple of local regular sports group activities after work, making strong friendships or relationships from those has proven tough to nearly impossible. Seems like nearly everyone in their 30s with a full time job, already has kids or a romantic relationship or has a long term friend group from their youth that occupies their free time so they can't suddenly accommodate an extra +1.
I can't see it getting better. I feel like a meatbag drone grinding away on shitty codebases in front of a screen 8h/day, just to pay rent and taxes for the next 40 years and die alone after, and compensate for the loneliness by traveling and sports. Only comfort is I don't suffer any grave physical illness so at least I got that going for me.
Maybe I should switch careers to something lower paying that has more human interaction and a better female/male ratio than SW development.
People are difficult to get to know but they say if you get to know someone who is good and not a bad person you immediately love them.
As a passing stranger reading your dilemma I also reject working until you die as a lifestyle choice. Everyone has the same 24 hours available to them. You don't have to accept the status quo if you don't want to. But you need to accept some risks. People have higher standards for others than for themselves. So getting to know people people put up walls of standards that they themselves don't abide.
Happy to talk tech spiritual stuff with you if you want someone to talk to.
That sounds like "let them eat cake"-level of advice.
Those who work long hours and navigate burnout borders often do so because it's extremely important for them to at least meet a bar that unblocks other life goals.
In some cases, not meeting the bar can result in losing a home, go bankrupt, or lose a partner/family.
Framing that as just a risk that someone needs to accept is irresponsible and naive advice. It's like telling someone in a sinking ship that not managing to hold onto a life raft is a risk that needs to be accepted, when to them it's the only acceptable option.
Of course things could get worse if you take a risk. But that's why we have limited liability.
I am not framing their circumstances as something that people should just accept. I'm saying if they want something they should take a risk and try get it.
One thing that I do is get coffee regularly in the morning with a group of guys. (It took dedication to get to this point)
Community is showing up. We have been doing Mondays for almost 7 years now and not everyone is married with kids.
If you pick somewhere and go there every week at the same time you slowly get incorporated. E.g. library, bookstore, chapel, coffee shop, bar, etc.
The entire human body responds to moderate stress by improving itself. Studies have shown that fasting, exercise, and "cognitive taxation" aka learning through practice improves related areas and there is causative connections here.
I think this, plus the correlation from the study is effectively strong evidence for isolation being causative to lower intelligence.
We'd have to run an actual causative experiment here to establish this with any sort of finality though.
Obviously there are some people who may have conditions that make it impossible or require medical intervention to perform certain physical or social activities. The vast majority of people can do these things and don't have extreme social or physical complications. It's more a matter of some willpower or having a smooth introduction and gradual or manageable increase of discomfort.
A huuuuge asterix is needed there. Stress can help build you up, only as long as it's controllable, within the tolerable limits of each individual and is paired enough quality sleep and rest when needed (like going to the gym)
Otherwise, stress outside the limits and control of the individual, with bad sleep and little rest, as they usually go hand in hand, leads to burnout, depression, eating disorders, substance abuse, homelessness, etc.
The same is true for countless other physical and psychological processes. Some stress is great, but you have to be very careful if you lack buildup or recovery periods.
I don't suspect any of this applies to people who isolate specifically so they can do something with their brain: study something, or make something. If you're at a party, and people basically like you, but you're thinking that you'd rather be finishing some debugging session that you left half done, this is not about you.
Rather, those who are shunned by others for being dullards.
Imagine they made an analogous study about running, following thousands of participants in distance running events. What would the finding be? "Runners who are separated from others are uncoordinated, inefficient and unfit, and have a higher BMI than those who stick with the pack". But, of course, front-runners are separated from others; there are necessarily far fewer of them in the study, leading to a misleading generalization.
For instance, I suspect that the raw data which was used by the study could be examined in ways such as: find the top 5% cognitive performers and determine how many of those socially isolate compared to the average.
Also, the study's definition of isolation is rather severe: "People were classified as socially isolated if they were living alone, had social contact less than monthly and participated in social activities less than weekly." The mean age in the data is 57, too; the investigation is focused on those who are getting on in years.
The source of the data would almost certainly have to be self-reporting, rooted in the answers to some questionnaires. A following problem could occur there: some of those who have a full-time job could answer yes to having daily social contact, whereas others could interpret social as anything but work. That would then cause a bias: over-representation of the unemployed in the isolated category. Speaking of work, based on the mean age, there is going to be a bunch of retirees in there too. Retired old people who don't see anyone not doing well mentally is hardly a secret.
Sorry I don’t understand this sentence. Are you saying he is not coping with the findings of the experiment? Did you typo “crap”?
If it’s slang for “You are misinterpreting the facts to support your own biased opinion” it’s not slang I’ve seen before
On the other hand even as a passionate programmer I see some form of mental decay in people describing debugging as fun. It can be fun but it probably shouldn't.
"We, therefore, investigated data from nearly 500,000 people from the UK Biobank, with a mean age of 57. People were classified as socially isolated if they were living alone, had social contact less than monthly and participated in social activities less than weekly."
"Our study also included neuroimaging (MRI) data from approximately 32,000 people. This showed that socially isolated people had poorer cognition."
They focused on older people, severely isolated, for whom brain MRI data was available.
If you're not already having some sort of brain problem, you won't be listed in a database where your brain MRI data is available. "People with brain MRI data" is biased toward cognitive problems.
If you are on HN you would believe that all studies are wrong due to trivial sample issues, but the researchers are usually aware of the issues and try to control for it. For your analogous study nobody would mistake the cause for the effect like that.
In my opinion they should do similar tests except with a 3rd group where isolated folks have a good chance of overcoming the isolation if they succeed in the cognitive test. Loneliness is very painful, hope of pain relief is just about the most powerful psychological force. I am clueless about the field but I attribute many mental disorders to be caused by that force. Typically the pain is memory of past trauma but also a belief connecting ongoing pain to something and hope of relieving that pain.
I was diagnosed with BPD about 10 years ago, and I think I'm mostly "cured". Two key turning points for me were:
1) drugs -- a great realization that the way you feel can be changed and to some degree you CAN be in fact in control by taking certain drugs. I absolutely do not encourage people to take drugs -- it just worked in my case (perhaps precisely because I was systematic in rotating drug types as to avoid getting dependent/tolerant)
2) therapy in general, but Schema Therapy's conclusion that for BPD it is crucial that the patient learns to combat the "punitive parent" inner voice. The first few times I learned to stand up to that punitive inner voice was again, a life-altering experience.
Before I felt completely trapped by the vicious loops of self negating my emotional needs, vicious punitive/critical voices, self-harm, rage and then complete detachment; after I had actual proof that things can get better, things did indeed start to get better.
I would not go as far as saying drugs should be free for all, because I have a sample size of one(myself) and for instance when dealing with nicotine -- I know 99% of the cases report that quitting nicotine is very hard, for me it was hard, but not that hard.
My point would be more along the lines of "a person should be allowed to experience any drugs under medical supervision as part of therapy" -- and my supposition being in a lot of cases there can be long term effects for short term drugs just because the patient knows there's a button in his head, whereas before he thought there was none and the way he feels is completely outside his control.
I know for a fact not all drugs are like that -- surely quitting antidepressants results in returning depression or quitting my stimulants results in me getting my ADHD back. But even if my impulsivity would be back for quitting ADHD stimulants, the fact that I took the stimulants for a year and was able to drive my daughter to kindergarden without turning into an emotional mess, reinforced circuitry in my brain that helps me drive without being medicated.
Also my panick attacks completely stopped just because I had a Xanax in my wallet and I had the peace of mind that I could end a pannic attack if one arose.
Anyway, I had some success with Buspar for anxiety.
And finding the right psychiatrist to prescribe you the right medication is a process in itself; the same with psychotherapy, and meaningful change in your life.
And my main point would be that a lot of people have never experienced being in control of their mental health problems and just showing them even a temporary fix could be very good for them, under the right circumstances. Under the wrong circumstances it could lead to addiction.
Now that we're back, I have more motivation to do things.
The one no one mentions is that stupid people may have fewer friends.
To determine causation we'd have to have a set of isolated people and a set of social people and for each set we deliberately pick half and raise the isolated people to be more social while making social people become more isolated. Then we record IQs. Only this experiment will determine causation.
It's the other way, in my experience.
People tend to be friends with other people of similar intelligence and since intelligence follows the normal distribution, people with most friends are of average intelligence.
Income also (mostly) follows intelligence, meaning less intelligent people have it tougher, meaning it is harder for them to set boundaries at work. This in turn makes them accommodate wildly differing opinions as they can not pick their coworkers and some degree of harmony is a must in the workplace.
Meaning they are trained to get along with college graduated engineers as well as flat earth crackpots. Thus they draw from a much wider pool of potential friends.
It is handy to be friends with an old landlady, despite her believing in the healing power of minerals in your pocket. She still has the cash and the spare room to throw the party.
Especially when she regularly hires your flat earther husband to paint her flats as the college student tenants graduate and move on.
But that's the rub; it's the forced isolation of those that prefer to be around others that aren't going to fare well. Based on your observation these folks are already not the most intelligent of the bunch, I suspect it goes downhill from there when pushed into solitude.
How could any participant participate in social activities more than weekly, yet have social contact less than monthly? I won't ask a similar question of the living alone issue since perhaps a spouse is not considered social contact.
And what basic efforts were made to try to avoid looking at correlation vs causation? And in particular the reverse of the suggested direction? Suggesting socially isolated individuals have lower cognitive abilities is a pretty surprising hypothesis, yet suggesting people with impaired cognition are more socially isolated is anything but.
How so? It seems pretty obvious to state that if you don't make use of certain mental capabilities, they decay.
People with poor cognition are more likely to socially isolate themselves (due to rejection by peers and/or trouble fitting in due to their unconventional thinking styles). Also, cognitive tests were typically designed by psychologists and other social scientists so there are likely to be biases in the kinds of intelligence that they measure; they likely favor people who are (on average) more social and more conventional thinkers like themselves.
There were studies that people generally get happier with more socialization with the exception of smart people that get unhappy with too much of it. But there are also exception to this rule. You might prefer alone time and you might still be dumb as a brick.
Maybe except for schizoid personality disorder:
> lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency toward a solitary or sheltered lifestyle, secretiveness, emotional coldness, detachment and apathy.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorde...
In the past, it was:
https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Homosexuality_and...
"As a result of this scientific research, the American Psychiatric Association declassified homosexuality as a mental disorder in 1973. Upon a thorough review of the scientific data, the American Psychological Association followed in 1975 and also called on all mental health professionals to take the lead in "removing the stigma of mental illness that has long been associated" with homosexuality. In 1993, the National Association of Social Workers adopted the same position as the American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association, in recognition of scientific evidence. The World Health Organization, which listed homosexuality in the ICD-9 in 1977, removed homosexuality from the ICD-10 which was endorsed by the 43rd World Health Assembly on 17 May 1990."
I.e. the respective changes in the diagnostic manuals were only adopted in the 90s.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorder#...
"Many hackers have noticed that mainstream culture has shown a tendency to pathologize and medicalize normal variations in personality, especially those variations that make life more complicated for authority figures and conformists. Thus, hackers aware of the issue tend to be among those questioning whether ADD and AS actually exist; and if so whether they are really ‘diseases’ rather than extremes of a normal genetic variation like having freckles or being able to taste DPT. In either case, they have a sneaking tendency to wonder if these syndromes are over-diagnosed and over-treated. After all, people in authority will always be inconvenienced by schoolchildren or workers or citizens who are prickly, intelligent individualists — thus, any social system that depends on authority relationships will tend to helpfully ostracize and therapize and drug such ‘abnormal’ people until they are properly docile and stupid and ‘well-socialized’."
Also, without casting any general discredit on psychologists, it’s important to keep in mind that they are also humans with their own biases. Positive critic by non-professional seems more balanced than blind acceptance. Of course systematic reassessment of things that point out your own weaknesses is an other matter.
> Affected individuals may be unable to form intimate attachments to others and simultaneously possess a rich and elaborate but exclusively internal fantasy world.
> stilted speech
> a lack of deriving enjoyment from most activities.
> feeling as though one is an "observer" rather than a participant in life.
> an inability to tolerate emotional expectations of others,
> a degree of asexuality.
>idiosyncratic moral or political beliefs.
> Symptoms typically start in late childhood or adolescence.
Jesus, TIL I might have a Schizoid personality disorder.
I've had to take steps to stop this happening and make sure I socialise at least once a week. This isn't something that comes naturally to me, but maybe it's a good thing to learn anyway.
Having a partner that you live with or see regularly doesn't really have the same effect as generally socialising. It is, of course, better than being completely alone, but I think the relationship will be strained and it will have a bad long term outcome.
The thing is it's not really that working from home is good, it's that open offices are bad. It would be better to have a private office at work where I can still easily meet people and have lunch with them etc.
My guess would be those that are socially isolated are less likely to be physically active, less likely to eat well and less likely to engage in activities that stimulate their minds. I'm thinking of people like my Gran who in last decade of her life after the passing of her husband did little more than watch TV and walk to shop once a week. People who live like this noticeably change. I've seen it in myself during periods of depression and social isolation. I'm not sure it's the isolation that does the damage, more everything else that often goes along with people who are living isolated.
From my research, neurofeedback seems like the best choice. Wondering if anyone else has been looking for similar answers and found anything?
Made me want to go out and find an otter.
https://www.amazon.com/Solitude-Return-Self-Anthony-Storr/dp...
People would leave for other companies and still meet up for drinks after work, they'd move away but we'd still stay in touch and meet up if they were ever in town at our usual pub. We'd go snowboarding/surfing/hiking together. Pretty much all my non-school/university friends came from work. I can't imagine not being friends with all these people.
Right now I love remote work, but I feel I'd have a much smaller social circle if I graduated during the pandemic and went straight into remote work.
I have an active social life outside of coworkers as well, but its very different. We do modest and affordable things like getting dinner or playing board games.
But the interplay of money and status-games at work can really mess these things up. Things are great when you're just hanging out with peers. But what happens when the boss shows up? What happens when the peers become your superiors or subordinates? What happens when the company starts having layoffs, or stack-ranking? These relationships go to shit.
There are also a lot of invisible boundaries that need to be maintained, not least around sexuality.
So no, don't detest your coworkers. Maybe even invest in friendships with them. But understand that, until you're working for different companies, there needs to be a little bit of a wall.
Walking on eggshells in US big tech just doesn't seem worth it.
- i'm in europe
- i'm socializing with my co workers, sometimes to the point of going on holidays with them
- we work fully remote
However, letting that be your only source of social interaction is a Bad Idea(tm).
Look at all the amenities the likes of Google provide for their employees. They're geared towards making them live at work.
What you describe - going for a pint with co workers after work - is an entirely different animal.