> It's much easier to throw your hands up when you're told over and over again that it's not your fault and is all the cause of immutable externalities.
No, it's not. There's nothing about recognizing a challenge that says that you cannot keep trying to overcome it.
It's just as easy to throw your hands up when someone is unsympathetic and calls people who have compassion 'SJWs' and you are buried in shame. For some people, yes, some amount of shame can be a motivator. For others it works the opposite way and results in a vicious cycle of self-treatment for depression with food. Poor mental health can be a much more pressing and existential threat than being overweight.
Listen. We know for sure that the gut biome can trigger the release of neurotransmitters via the vast cluster of neurons in the digestive system. That is: bacteria in your gut can directly affect your mood if you don't eat the food they want you to eat. Like it or not, we are electrochemical machines, not little ghosts piloting spaceships.
I have a friend who is a healthy weight, has a flat stomach and is regarded as very attractive. She eats the absolute worst food: hot pockets, pizza rolls and candy. But, in public, no one assumes she eats junk food. No one tells her to lose weight or to eat less. No one makes a disgusted face at her if she goes to the gym.
On the other hand, imagine someone obese eating at McDonalds once a week while still maintaining a calorie deficit for the day. What kind of looks, assumptions and comments do you think that person will get when they are eating fries? Do you think that is motivating? Do you think people who want you to treat that person as a human are SJWs? Why is SJW an insult to you anyway? Because people care about other people too much? Because you doubt the sincerity of people who publicly make an effort?