So it isn't so much "as a rule" as "as a rule when the government has been refulatorily captured."
In fact I think you will find that most industries that are built only happen through lots of government "interference." Silicon Valley is an excellent example of this, as the early customers were all defense industry largesse. And without those extremely rich customers with very extreme technological needs, development of Silicon Valley would have stalled, or perhaps not happened at all.
The examples of those successful Asian countries implies that the tradeoff is well worth it.
And the examples of many, many countries which used "industrial policy" to implement awful ideas like import substitution (i.e. "developing" towards autarchy, not increased trade openness and market discipline) can imply the opposite.
I'm not sure that this is correct, the theoretical argument for supporting infant industries is quite old and well known by now. The main remaining question is an empirical one, of whether you think that industrial policy as it's actually practiced in the real world is generally worthwhile. Those who advocate against government meddling argue that it mostly isn't.
Why does exporting come with the expectation of providing employment to countries who could not build competent industries. I am not anti-immigration, I am an immigrant myself, just trying to understand your argument.
I think economic immigration has nothing to do with trade imbalance, and all to do with quality of life. As an example, India may be exporting more to Greece, but there are many Indians who would rather live in Greece, and none in the other direction.