You misunderstand me. I'm not cutting out socializing at the job. I manage a large team and never schedule anything outside of working hours for the team. We can socialize, joke around, and make small talk all day long. But once it's quitting time I have other (and to me higher) priorities.

On some occasions, someone from work has transitioned from a coworker to a friend. That was a natural transition and not something that I needed team building events that compromise my personal time to achieve.

I don't have an aversion to socializing at work. I have an aversion to work trying to steal my personal time.