I really feel this way. The two Apple products I own are an iPhone, and an M1 Mac Mini. The hardware is good. The software often thwarts things I'm trying to do and pisses me off greatly.

At least on the Mac Mini though, I can disable SIP and go crazy, or install Asahi Linux. iPhone is gimped really hard and even a $100/yr developer license doesn't really help you that much; you're still not getting basic WebM in Safari or alternate browser engines.

I know it's popular to not like Android for being janky, not as privacy-respecting, fragmented, or simply because of the fact that it's Google, but I don't really mind Android that much, even given all of its faults. It's mildly annoying but at the end of the day it feels like there's very little that I simply can't do. I mostly use Google devices, so I can always root and flash other ROMs.