When I first read the Three Body Problem series, a lot of it, like the Dark Forest theory etc seemed a bit off, and I tried hard to retcon some of the assumptions being made about physics and biology etc into something that actually made sense.
Then I read Ball Lightning, and had the revelation of "Oh shit, this dude actually has zero comprehension of how physics works". Then I felt silly for all the energy I spent trying to make any of it make sense. All his books are a ton of fun, and lots of imaginative concepts, but it really is all just for fun, and not really realistic at all. The whole 12 dimensional deflation concept shook me for months, and Dark Forest Theory is a really cool concept, and totally valid in certain environments, but almost certainly not in our galaxy at this point in time.
> For as awesome as Earth is, it doesn't have any unobtainium some hyper advanced species couldn't find elsewhere.
Yeah, I'd imagine that even if a hyper-advanced civilization did stop by, they'd probably just harvest a bunch of hydrogen from Jupiter to refuel their spacecraft, and be on their way. Earth has some of the least interesting resources in the solar system.
Most importantly, environments with plentiful resources that explode with life tend to develop a robust ecosystem of symbiosis and mutual dependence. The only time "Dark Forest" type ecosystems emerge is when resources are insanely restrictive, like deserts etc. As far as we can tell, our galaxy is teeming with resources that no one has really started mining at scale. Even if we did bump into some other expanding civilization, there's approximately zero chance of anyone getting boxed into a corner that would lead to conflict. We would just keep expanding in some other direction.