sounds like you're either 100% not interested in having children, or are unaware of the impact of delaying the choice on having kids past 35
They want children, and they're choosing to pay a high price for them.
If the OP made minimum wage would they make the same choice? If they were really "forced" into it, then they would have to.
You could argue ANYONE making 100k is "choosing" to live paycheck to paycheck.. they could move to Thailand and live comfortably for $1500/month, but they _choose_ to only live in countries where they don't have to learn another language, or leave their family... So we're arguing over what people can reasonably expect from life, and for many, a kid is in that just as much as living in a city.
If we NATURALLY had a kid, most people would argue that $1,500-2,000/month in daycare costs is a forced expense, but because we have not been successful naturally have kids, $1,500-2,000/month to have a kid we want is a choice?
Good luck with your IVF!
Definitely not going to defend the way the original opinion was communicated though...
There are all kinds of arguments for having kids or not having kids. It’s a big decision.
Also agreed and more that the original communication was insubstantial garbage.
If I chose to live with and marry the love of my life, and the results is that I live paycheck to paycheck, is that still a choice? I already said that we BOTH work second jobs to pay for our choice, and I'd argue your comment degrades the troubles that my family is going through to achieve our goals with the money that we're working hard for.
I can see people viewing the cost of IVF and seeing it as being wasteful, but when you're in this situation and you've been trying for 5+ years, it's a hard feeling and situation to convey. And ultimately, I find it unfair to say a couple that naturally has a child is "forced" to pay for daycare -- and that is acceptable... but a family who wants to have a child can't pay near the same amount to have the child they want -- that's a choice!....
It comes down to how you want to live, and what you want from life.
For our family having 1 kid was something we wanted / expected. It didn't happen naturally for several years. In 5 years, it would be nearly impossible for us to have a family (of our own genetics), so we were "forced" to go to IVF to have such a kid, or accept that she can't give birth to a child and her family line ends.
Certainly, not everyone wants kids, and that's their choice -- I respect that -- I'm just saying it's not REALLY a choice sometimes... Which makes it "forces" about as much as the news article says.. because again, most IT people could remote work from the middle of nowhere.. but that's not what most people "accept".