I gave up after reading the first paragraph, the problem with the light switches is easily solvable. Remove the switch, use a wire nut to splice the hots together, cover the empty switch box with a blank plate. No more light switches, no more problems with smart bulbs being reset.

Smart bulbs are stupid anyways, either get occupancy sensors or keep your toggle switches/dimmers, why do you want to control your lighting from a phone app??? Novelty does not equal utility.