Well, I would want to use a single RE syntax if possible. It does not have to be POSIX BRE with GNU extensions but that's what is used by the other tools I use.
Looking closer, GNU grep, git grep, ripgrep all support PCRE. That might be an okay alternative. It would take some time and effort to switch over. I do not know yet whether it would be worth the effort, but getting used to a different syntax that's used by a wide number of tools seems more useful than getting used to a different syntax that's used by a single tool, no matter how useful the tool.
> Which is fine. Keep using the old stuff. I don't see any good reason to exactly imitate POSIX when I can go build something that I think is better without being constrained by POSIX. For example, I think just having \b is better than having both \< and \>.
To be clear, \< and \> are GNU extensions, not part of POSIX.
I can't really see how making \< and \> errors is better for users than supporting it in addition to \b. I can see an argument that it's not worth the cost to implement the feature, and that's of course one you're entirely within your rights to make, but not that the feature has a negative overall value.
For the rest, it seems like you and I have different ideas about what the author meant that are going to be impossible to clear up without input from the author, so I will suggest that we drop that unless and until we do get such input.