NATO did escalate with Russia since the fall of the USSR. Even former Bush admins protested against this.
All empires have to face their end eventually and it's well past the time for Russia to demilitarize and make amends for their violent past.
A good place to note I fully condemn Russia for the invasion and loss of lives... I just don't find it surprising in the least and do think NATO expansion catalysed much preventable harm.
Also, as said you shouldn't say "NATO expansion". That's the imperialistic Russian viewpoint. NATO doesn't expand, countries join the alliance.