My regular advice in life is to read whatever patio11 wrote about your problem. I'm not sure what applies. Do we have a @patio11 signal?
Perhaps
* https://www.kalzumeus.com/2011/10/28/dont-call-yourself-a-pr... HN discussions https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3170766 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=21303181 and a few more https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true&que...
* https://www.kalzumeus.com/2012/09/17/ramit-sethi-and-patrick... NH discussion https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4533498