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Your distinction is irrelevant.

Owning your problem will always result in a better outcome than focusing on victimhood and blame. Blame places control and solutions outside yourself.

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I'm getting at the difference between people that give up because they feel they have no control and people who feel like they can only change themselves. Both of those are maladaptive in their extremes. Figuring out which sort of tendencies one has and adjusting that is a step toward owning your problems. The steps toward ownership looks different for these two types.

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