Does it not reflect reality to recognize that time spent feeling sorry for yourself could be better utilized in any number of other pursuits? Why the hostility to this basic notion?
If feeling things actually took up time, you'd be making some sense, but as it is...
Just because something accurately reflects reality does not mean you are obligated to occupy your mind with it, especially if there is nothing to be done about it.
Two thoughts can reflect the same reality in different light.
The world would be a very boring place if the only value of thought was its accuracy of reflection of reality.
That's not an accurate recounting of what I said, but I guess it's one that aids you!