It's feels a bit unfair to be told that because I'm a man I don't do enough.
I think you might be reading things that no one is saying.
Saying, "this commonly happens" is not the same as saying, "you are doing this."
It seems implicit in this statement. I'm also the cook (my wife doesn't know how), we split laundry, handle child care together when possible (with my mother coming over to help). My wife is in school and doesn't earn an income ATM and we aren't sure what happens when she graduates, but even with me working full time chores are split as I work from home. Different people have different strengths. We have a son and there are some things I like that he does that she doesn't.
Saying a pattern exists in no way implies you, specifically, fit that pattern.
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2015/11/04/raising...
They weren’t expressing an opinion that men don’t do work, but stating what research shows: that women tend to take on unpaid work disproportionately to men, including house work: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34465574/