SSRI-like drugs and drugs like buspirone are considered the gold standard for anxiety disorders now. They do not act like benzodiazepines at all in the brain.
Newer SSRI-like drugs that block the serotonin transporter and activate 5HT1A also exist, combining the actions of both drugs.
It typically takes serotonin receptors about two weeks to downregulate, and possibly even months to see any effects on depression and anxiety. Buspirone is not like benzodiazepines that work pretty much instantly, but it doesn't come with any of the risks benzodiazepines do.