If you turn up a few times after destroying the gearbox from shifting into reverse on the highway, they might have a word. I don't condone the berating, I just mean to point out the source of the conflict [0]. A car (especially a modern one) abstracts away its insides much better than a database or network does, too.
[0] The mechanic is also being paid by you to fix your screwup, in proportion to the severity of the screwup. Your colleague is not.