Looking for single family residence since we have kids now, and it seems if we want to live in similar upscale neighborhood with good schools, we will need to put 25% towards mortgage & HOA. 2 years ago, it would have been only 12-15%.
It's right around 25% of our net joint income.
That is 12% of my net income only, not total household income (wife's income, mother's social security, and soon-to-be expected income from our rental property, which has no mortgage).
(If I were paying the rent and bills entirely myself, it'd be closer to 50%.)
We live in rural Minnesota, wife is a nurse, I work remotely for a company out of NYC.
I live 15 minutes outside of town.