You build highways and they screech about cutting up neighborhoods.
You don't and they screech about the resulting sprawl as development becomes more diffuse.
My pet favorite solution is more park & ride transition points on the outskirts and light rail in the dense areas but the cognitive dissonance it takes to argue that raised highways and highway pits cut through neighborhoods but not let out a peep when it's subway and tram lines doing the same should disqualify one from voting.
As much as I hate the NIMBYs for insisting on violating other people's property rights you at least have to give them +1 for consistency.
Looking back with hindsight we'd probably be better off if we had just built all the urban highways and rail lines (and other transit infrastructure projects) that have been seriously considered over the years.