In my experience, 10 year expiration dates for options and reasonably detailed financials (at the very least, ARR, ARR growth rate, churn rate) have been table stakes. And most companies were happy to let me view their latest round's pitch deck, after signing an NDA.
It's frustrating that almost no company offers early exercise rights, given how significant a tax value that it can represent, but compared to most other industries, it does seem tech is particularly employee friendly.