One of the reasons I'm using almost all my free time to work on my bootstrapped startup ideas is to be able to move to a little city and still be able to do what I like while earning enough money, so that I could hopefully give my daughter that same freedom that I got - if my wife allows that!
- Only limited access to like-minded children (i.e., rather nerdy people who like to actually design and properly build tree houses rather than putting together some old sheets and then move into 'let's attack the tree hut' mode)
- Access to intellectually stimulating activities
- A proper library (maybe less important with the internet nowadays)
- Role models who aren't factory workers or construction workers (nothing wrong with them, but being exposed to a variety of role models is the key - I didn't really get the concept of an office job until I was in my early teens).
I have no desire to move back to such an environment, and even less desire to let my daughter grow up in it. Not saying that cities are perfect either, just that I don't think the advantages of villages outweigh the disadvantages.
It's true that it is more difficult to find like-minded friends and more intellectually stimulating activities there, but I think that that would only become a concern when you're over 13 or something, and there's a lot of time for that. Big libraries (which I missed back in the day) wouldn't be a problem today, and as for role models, that wouldn't be a problem in that kind of city I'm talking about.
Of course, there is no perfect choice, but in my opinion a small city would be the best compromise. Then, only time will tell...
In Italy, places like Padova, Pavia and Pisa - back in the US, places like Eugene, Oregon or Boulder, Colorado (although I've never been there) may qualify.
I also recall where rensellaer poly is to be a nice little town next to the university.
I can't think of many towns in Texas that offer a small university town without being so spread out parents don't have to worry about cars though.
Boulder is also really nice near campus (getting sprawlish outside it), mountain hikes are a bike ride away.
There was also the hot summer, midday trek when we got lost in the hills. Well, we found out the way back at last, but it could have been serious :)
I'm not mentioning the bad habit to illegally ( 12 y. o. aren't supposed to) drive regularly motorcycles without helmets. Fortunately nobody ever got seriously hurt.
I, along with my younger bro & sis and friends, had to be back in by dark and rarely had to say where we were going. sometimes we'd go off on bike rides well out of the city or even take a small boat we found and row/motor it around the rivers(tamar/tavy) (no safety equipment, repaired it ourselves, hilariously overloaded). fires, explosions, trespass, "base"/bunker/dam building, tree-climbing, ragging my donated scrambler in wasteland, etc were all regular activities.
Now I see my other bro and sis (~10yrs younger than I) and they always have homework or are on their laptops. my youngest brother used to go with us sometimes when he was ~4 so he knows what "play" is but none of his friends want or are allowed to join him.
It was also normal to walk or cycle to school on our own. I really hope my children will be able to do the same.
It seemed most of the parents didn't pay attention to what we did, or at least condoned it. I know my one friends parent knew we got really into blowing stuff up, and just told us to "Be safe".
In the last 5-10 years I've seen a complete shift even within the families that were initially lax. My little brother and his friends got chewed out a while ago for dumpster diving a small LCD and other stuff. The "be safe" mom now watches the neighborhood for suspicious activity.
So, even though by all rights we should have had privileges restricted, that was never really an issue until highschool. All the younger kids I know are on a pretty tight leash, and they don't get into nearly the same level of mischief as we did.
My old neighborhood friends are probably some of the best people I know. We're all really close, and that's partly from all the stuff we did and still do. Taking risks with the support of a group softens failures, makes successes that more awesome, and pulls the group together.
I can say without a doubt that being able to explore and take those risks is why I understand my limits yet am always trying to push them. I almost completely agree with the article (except maybe the depression/anxiety) that free play is important, and in my opinion more valuable than early academic education.
/rant
I have never been a group person all my life, I am mostly alone, especially since I moved to another country and city and it is hard for me to relate to other people or feel comfortable in a crowd or really enjoy going to a pub or going out. I am suffering from (at times severe) depression and anxiety.