You've got it in one. People think that the biggest highway with the most lanes will mean less sitting in traffic, so they plan their trips to include it.
People think that a satellite city connected to the big city with a big highway will have a short car commute, so they choose to live there.
This kind of thinking induces demand until the experience of sitting in traffic for an hour on one of the widest highways in the world—like Ontario's 401—discourages people from taking the highway.
So politicians spend billions widening the highway some more. Lather, rinse, repeat.