> I found that women, in particular, discussed their sexual experiences in visceral terms: encounters that end in unexpected and alarming acts — a choking, say, or other porn-inspired violence [...] Queer relationships, being less beholden to male-female gender dynamics, may [emphasis mine] present fewer issues — but they aren’t perfect either.

Speculation based on gender studies theory might be good enough for the NY Times, but why don't we check?

43.8% of lesbian women and 61.1% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner at some point in their lifetime, as opposed to 35% of heterosexual women. - https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/domestic-violence-and-the-lgbtq... [data from the CDC]

No I don't