Ask HN: Founder-friendly guide to equity grants / options packages?

Can someone please recommend a good up-to-date guide on creating options pools (ESOP) / options packages that are written from the founder's perspective.

How many options to offer (relevant 2022 also), good vesting schedules etc.

Most of the guides are written from employee's perspectives, and have the tone that assumes the company is out to screw over its employees, so "ask for more because you will receive less".

I just don't want to perform mental gymnastics where I am reading some advice and then divide it by N because the advice is anti-company, and I am, well, the company, and then I end up as essentially that kind of adversarial asshole.

I mean is it salary + 1 month salary in stock options? Or is it 0.75 [market] salary in cash + 0.25 [market] salary in stock?

Thanks guys.