That said, I share OP's concerns as someone who has been evaluating alternatives to Google Workspace and Office 365. It is understandable that they may be prioritizing a B2B model, a decision which may be at odds users like OP and myself. That said, I still recommend it to teams/people who do not share this concern.
I hesitate investing further than my current setup because of this reason and I've been investigating whether Headscale/ZeroTier fit the bill. It is a shame because it is such a great product and it has been a while since I last had an equivalent experience using software.