Can I ask who it is that you see pushing people towards urban life over suburban or rural? What I mostly see is people saying that suburbia and rural areas are being subsidised by urban dwellers and that people should pay their fair share of the costs of their lifestyle. You're not going to ever be banned from living rural or suburban in any Western democracy, but right now suburbia is subsidised in most cities in the West, and there are heaps of land-use restrictions that stop people doing reasonable things like building houses.

In fact, it sounds like what you want is the freedom to live the lifestyle you want, and that's all that YIMBYs really want: freedom to build houses on their land, and people paying their fair share of the costs of their infrastructure.