and I’m not going into the sex stuff, but yes that was going on as well. Less with myself but it was all the way criminal.
Shame on me for not going to the police. But as a young teenager you just don’t know.
Shame on me for not going to the police. But as a young teenager you just don’t know.
I don't know about The Lees; the boarding school I went to was full of homosexuality, both between the boys and between certain teachers and boys. It was treated very casually; "boys will be boys".
I was a victim of (mild) abuse. I never told anyone, until my father died, a few years ago (my mother died 40 years ago). I had read an article by another victim, which named my abuser - at a different school. After my father died, I finally felt able to report my abuser to the police.
The way it works is that sooner or later, some boy reports the abuse to their parents. The parents complain to the head; the head explains to the abuser that he has two choices; he can stay and be prosecuted, or he can leave, with a clean reference. So he just gets a job at another private school.
The head absolutely doesn't want a scandal.
When the Littleton shooting hit the news this was the first thing on my mind. Lots of us know those events have deep roots in the local community.
You were a kid in an impossible situation; you weren't and aren't the responsible party. Most adults couldn't handle that situation, and the adults there didn't handle it at all. Your story and your roommate's story are just heartbreaking to hear. It makes me angry at the adults and, though I try to remember that they are conditioned the same experiences, at the attackers.