You can’t be “short and” - short and broke, short and mean, short and shy, short and fat (which I was until I was 18).
Might be helpful to consider that most people feel like they have two strikes against them already (some of them being more right in their assumption maybe).
I've noticed the best dancer in a club is a short guy. Tall guys can just coast, but a bit of time in the gym definitely helps.
Maybe that's just what I tell myself to feel better.
Have faith! Don't feel bad, lankiness while dancing is just "the emergent property" of what happens when a tall person is learning. Short dancers (of whom the 2 of the best footwork-heads in my old crew were) have their own pathologies to get over, it's not all free lunch, they just look differently when they do. And similarly, as they improve, they can gain a really distinctive style of crisp, clean, fast, small motions. HOWEVER, tall dancers aren't precluded from mastering styles that works with our body either, it just, tall as for short, takes practice. Have a link to one of my favorites, Kapela [0]. I can only hope it inspires others like it does me :) (Going to go do my footwork practice now, in fact, as talking about this got me excited.)
I'd actually suggest it's easier to be a good dancer if you're tall and lanky because the movement of your limbs is more apparent.
I'm sure this is true, I've noticed a lot of the best football playing kids in my son's circles are short, and often immigrants.
> There is no chance you can be unfit, fat or awekward
This is just as true if you're tall. You don't get away with being fat or awkward if you're tall. The only thing is that, ceteris paribus, it's more desirable. It doesn't really cancel any other shortcoming.
- I’ve been in above average shape for most of my adult life - I’m in my late 40s
- I spent a 10+ year stint as a part time fitness instructor. Then life got crazy
- By BigTech standards my compensation is meh. But I work remotely for BigTech in a mid cost of living area
- I’ve been happily married for a decade.
No woman has ever said “you know what? I really want a short overweight broke introvert. It’s what I’ve always dreamed of”.
Gabe from the office - famous, rich, talented.
You kind of just proved my point.
I’m by no means an incel. But things might have turned out differently if I did have the “third strike”.
My wife of 10 years would and has been with me through thick and thin and I’m 100% confident that she will be no matter what. But I doubt she would have given a 36 year old (at the time) the time of day if I had been 5 foot 5, 350 pounds, flipping burgers at McDonalds and yelling at her “hey shawty, give me dem digits”.
And before the woke police chastise me for picking on “urban Black culture”, not only are “some of my best friends Black”, so are my parents and all of my family.
No idea why you'd say Gabe is famous rich and talented. I'm talking about the character, he's none of those things. No girl would ever look at him, tall or not.
Are you arguing then that she'd have swooned over all that but 6ft tall? Sounds like a real catch.