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I wish I had known my wife didn’t love me through my entire 30’s.

My 40’s are not what I expected.

Very sorry to hear it didn't work out. Could you share how you got over it? Any other advice / experience that might be helpful for others?

Oh, it’s been a year and a half and I still feel lost, miserable, betrayed, and so on.

My life literally got flipped upside down. I’m definitely not the right person to ask how to get over it.

My attempts mostly include focusing on my children and their lives, a lot of going to the gym (daily), kayaking in the summer, snowboarding through the winter, reading, side projects.

I’m still in the “never going to be in a relationship again” phase. I hear a lot of guys go through that, but it changes supposedly??? We’ll see.

Have you thought about talking about this with a therapist?

It’s fun calling therapists and having them be “full”.

But yeah.

Please try Codependents Anonymous. You may think it doesn't relate to you, but if you suffered through 10+ loveless years and now can't yet recover, you'll see that the meetings probably resonate with you. There are free Zoom meetings. Best wishes you.

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